THE SANDBOX
The first nine similarities between toddlers and executives which I have presented describe many of traits which contribute to the success of executives. While there are some potential derailleurs in each Toddler/Executive similarity if not approached with intentionality, this last similarity, regarding collaboration, is a bit different in that there is more negative impacts than positive.
Think of a sandbox filled with toddlers. It has been observed that toddlers do not play with each other but rather alongside each other… often called parallel play. In a sandbox full of toddlers you can usually find them all playing in their own spot with a specific few toys working toward something of their own creation. The only time they really interact with each other is when one toddler has a toy another toddler wants or when one starts infringing on the space of one of their parallel players. Sound familiar? Sure it does.
Executives are driven people. What drives them differs greatly from person to person. For some it is a higher purpose… a calling if you will. For others it is power or money or fame. Regardless of the motive, this drive can create challenging dynamics when you introduce peers into the equation who have a similar drive for success.
Many of us have experienced one of the more obvious forms of the dysfunction that can arise between high powered Executives…the fabled turf war. Maybe we have experienced it as a bystander, a victim or even an enabler. These turf wars are not necessarily born out of a place of sheer divisiveness. It usually comes from two executives having objectives that are in some way opposed. For example, increasing sales volume to increase marketshare (often the target of a Vice President of Sales) may come of the cost profitability in the short term (often contrary to what a CFO wants to see). As the executives continue to push toward their objectives the friction between them and their organizations can intensify. Given the nature of the Executive and the strengths and skills that have gotten them to where they are, each is usually more prone to devise strategies to outwit their internal opponent in order to ensure achievement of their objective. In the end, they may achieve success for their division… an outcome that might not actually be best for the overall organization.
The alternative approach would be to look at the big picture, understand the perspectives of the various stakeholders in the organization and work toward a common objective that truly achieves the best results. This sounds well and good, however, in business we are measured by our ability to perform against a set of objectives and until we are rewarded for overall results and not our individual scope it is unlikely for this dysfunction to resolve itself. We can tackle this in another post on new approaches to performance management.
So with no “structural” solution in play, what to do?
For the Executive: Being the Executive of an organization or a division is tough. You have the dynamics of demanding stakeholders, aggressive, intelligent and driven peers and direct report organizations that do not fully understand your context. The pressure is great. Reverting to the sandbox mentality is a tempting way to reduce the complexity and draw a line on the sand…. “My objective is to be #1 in marketshare and we are going to achieve it… end of story.” The reward for such an achievement might be a promotion, maybe a keynote at a convention that gets you your next job… or maybe your organization goes out of business because it failed to be profitable or injured its reputation because the organization couldn’t handle the customer services on the back end of all those sales. Ultimately, the decision is yours. You may chose to hold to the pursuit of your objective but do not ignore the potential consequences. Ensure your are fully aware the impact to your objectives on your peer’s objectives and the risks to the organization. You can then make an educated decision. When challenged by your peers, you will at least be able to demonstrate an understanding of their context thereby increasing the credibility of your stance.
For those working with Executives: I have seen many people actively work to build the walls of divisiveness based on the perceived friction between their Executive and the Executive of another division only to be left to “eat crow” when their Executive engages in a truce with the Executive of the other division. Worse yet, consider what would happen if the Executive leaves the organization and those who remain now see you as toxic. Sometimes you may feel like your Executive’s behavior lacks the necessary collaborative qualities to ensure his organization is successful in the long run. In this situation ask yourself, what can I do to help bridge the gap? What relationships can I forge to build bridges at lower levels in the organization? Ultimately this will protect your own brand while strengthening the approach of your Executive.
For those looking to develop as an Executive: Achieving your objectives is critical to advancing your career. AND, if you are able to work toward your objectives WHILE keeping relationship as a main priority your path will be much smoother. To be clear, this isn’t an easy task. Most of those whom you come into contact with who have opposing priorities may not be as willing as you are to collaborate. Consider each of these friction points as a way to train for what is to come. Much like musicians practicing that challenging passage over and over to ensure they can do it when the curtain rises, so you will be equipped to to build bridges and protect your organization from the friction they might otherwise feel when you finally do make it to the Executive ranks.
For parents of Toddlers: Just make sure your kid doesn’t throw sand anyone’s face… that really hurts.