DO IT NOW: Level of patience
One of the hallmark characteristics of the Toddler is a fundamental lacking of patience. As an infant, we come into this world with a powerful ability to get what we want, when we want it. Initially this ability is critical to our survival and is executed through the use blood curdling screams that will make the parent do what ever it takes to make it stop! It results in prompt feeding, diaper changes, and adequate rest for the growing human. As time goes on, the infant develops into a toddler, however, the level of patience stays pretty much the same. That is until we, as parents, step in to correct the behavior. It’s physics… an object in motion will stay in motion until acted upon by an equal or greater than opposing force.
There’s no denying that a lack of patience gets results. Similar to toddlers, executives often seemingly exhibit a very limited amount of patience. Why? It makes us quick. The organization a leader leads is typically active with many different things. If the leader positions a new request or direction in a “get to it when you get to it” way, you can all but guarantee that this task will never get done as those items which are positioned as urgent will take priority. So the Executive must fight fire with fire and therefore create urgency to ensure his or her priorities are in fact a priority for the organization they lead.
That being said, we all know that patience is a virtue and therefore how can we reconcile this apparent contradiction?
For the Executive: As a leader you must ruthlessly prioritize. Identify those things which are a priority and set challenging timelines. This will ensure your team understands the urgency and will plan and execute accordingly. HOWEVER, BE CAREFUL! You must use this tactic sparingly. If you fail to prioritize and create challenging false deadlines on everything, you will burn your teams out and, worse, injure your credibility with the team. Ultimately, they will start questioning the why behind everything they are tasked with.
For those working with Executives: Try not to mistaken the Executive’s perceived impatience as immaturity. In many cases, the Executive is quite calculated in their approach. On the other hand, if it seems as though everything is urgent, it may be important to communicate the current strain on the team and seek additional understanding related to the priority of the task at hand vs other work in progress.
For those looking to develop as an Executive: Being overly understanding and patient will not drive high performance. Leaders become executives because they know how to create high performance teams. They do so with a skilled blend of patience and urgency. Master this and you are well on your way to the C-Suite.
For parents of Toddlers: Patience is a virtue. Teach your children how to wait. A great opportunity is when you are talking to another adult. There are so many times that our kids would just start talking to us and asking questions in the middle of my wife and I having a conversation. While it would be much easier to stop our conversation to answer the simple question, it is imperative that we lean in and swiftly correct the behavior and teach them to be patient and wait until we are done with our conversation.